When a child
struggles with an eating
disorder, it has a major impact on the entire family. Daily
routines as well as coping and problem-solving behaviors are all
negatively affected. It can seem as if the easiest things become
overwhelming; just getting up for school on time involves frustration
and fighting. In addition, families dealing with an eating disorder
often say that it feels as if time stands still and that everything
in their lives has come to focus on the eating disorder.
Research shows
that a non-blaming approach to treatment in which the family is seen
not as the cause of the problem but rather as a resource to support
the adolescent in the recovery process is recommended. Additionally,
working within the family system helps members understand the
evolution of the family dynamics in relation to the development of
the eating disorder. Think of it this way, by openly identifying and
discussing these family dynamics, insight and learning can happen and
change can be created. Family system work creates significant
improvement and positive changes in terms of both the individual and
family functioning.
As part of the
therapeutic work, families benefit from exploring how they became
caught up in the eating disorder. When family members are able to
step back from the disorder and identify and practice using their
strengths, they gain perspective and are able to discover solutions
to their situation.
At The
Meadows Ranch, family members are seen as partners in the
recovery process. Let me emphasize that families are part of the
solution. As the adolescent returns to the family system after
treatment, clear expectations and family rules are a necessary part
of the recovery process. Parents must “parent” the adolescent and
avoid “parenting” the eating disorder. It is important to have
discussions surrounding this when families are calm and empowered
versus anxious and reactionary. Families can accomplish this with
improved communication skills, clear expectations, and with the
involvement of professionals.
Family system
work is vital in the recovery process for adolescents with eating
disorders. Although this work can involve many different people,
perspectives, and experiences, healing can occur, understanding can
be developed, and families can embrace recovery with elegance,
dignity, resilience, and solidarity.